Uniting Our Clans...

This is a very important blog I just had to complete. I've been around for 30 years going on 31 in August. I've come to learn a lot of important life lessons like things change and people die. The topic I would like to address is how people treat each other. I know this may sound lame but in all seriousness it is something that I need to speak on for several reasons. Now I am not the richest guy in the world. I am universes away from me that. Even with that said I know that deep down I know one thing I am and it's cautious of how I treat people. I'm not at saying I am perfect but how I treat people is what forms my reputation and forms a sort of a foundation for how they think of me. 

I can't tell you how much it pisses me off when I hear about family members or friends, in any way, being mistreated for no apparent reason. So I want it to be very clear to anyone and everyone who reads this that the "Golden Rule" as I learned it to be in school is that you treat other people the way you would want to be treated. It's a pretty simple concept. All it means is that if you wouldn't want anyone gossiping about you spreading rumors about you that are false and hurtful then don't do it to anyone else. I understand that everyone is not going to love everyone when it comes to family. It would be nice to have it that way but this is not the reality of it. There are going to be family members who do not get along. The key is to give each other, at least, common respect as human beings. Actions speak louder than words but words can cut like a knife when they are hurtful. Words stay with you in your mind and that can be ultimately worse than a physical injury. It's not only what you say but how you say it. I'm going to admit that I am horrible with this. I don't always mind my tone when things are said and it gives the wrong negative impression. This something I continue to work on but I am aware of this flaw I have. It seems that many people who are verbally offensive, many times, are completely ignorant to the fact or just don't care about the feelings that are hurt by their words. 

I am tired of my silence being mistaken for weakness. Rest assured it is not. I am simply not into a whole lot of pointless drama. However, at the same time, saying nothing enables and allows those who continue to behave immaturely with spite to do so. I love my family which includes the family I was born and raised into and the family I have been blessed with through finding the love of my life and having our daughter Gabriella with her and before that the formation of friendship with my best friend, the child's God Father, and the child's mother's cousin. Nothing would make me happier than to see everyone on both sides treating each other like family members should. At the same time I refuse to hold onto petty grudges from yesteryear. Let's all let the past be the past and move towards the future united by common bloodlines and unconditional love. 

I have already accepted some individuals will not see things my way. I am at peace with whatever they decide. Life is too short to let my life be consumed by negativity though. So in the long run I am deciding to not feed into the negativity and instead rise above it. I have so much to be thankful for. I have so many blessings in my life. My life could be better, I'm not going to lie, but it could also be much worse. 


I firmly believe that a person's legacy is cemented in how he treated others in life. I do not want to look back on life and see years of conflict, bickering, and fighting over nothing in particular in the first place. I get we're all different but that's what makes us special. We should use those differences to appreciate each other more and not let them turn us apart. So I will lead by example and not get lost in the grievances of the past but look forward positively towards the victories of the future.